Today I’m going to talk about good manners and speech. Disrupting the class by talking out of turn is disrespectful to the teacher and other students in the class. It even hurts the person who is doing the talking. It causes a distraction which disturbs the teacher from teaching the lesson and the student from learning it. In social life, manners demonstrate if a person is proper, polite, and refined. As children we may not fully understand the importance of good manners, but it is a thing that will benefit us for the rest of our lives.
Manners are something we use every day to impress others. For example, when you write a forced thank you note to your aunt for giving you a sweater for Christmas. But it is not this; it is about being mindful and considerate of other people’s feelings. We know a person from their manners and behavior. They are very important for our conduct in society. That is why there is so much stress put on learning manners. Parents want to teach manners to their children. Teachers want to teach manners to their pupils. Mentors want to teach manners to their disciples.
We use daily manners constantly without even thinking. From greeting and introducing others to making requests and expressing thanks, these simple exchanges are the foundation of all interactions. Since our choices impact others, it is important to make our choices thoughtfully, so as to communicate a considerate awareness of oneself and others. Good manners display respect, care, and consideration for others, and those who have them are usually well thought of by those they meet. They also help you have better relationships with people. Manners are very useful.
Good manners make friends for us, because people like to be friends with people who have fine manners. They may turn our enemies into our friends. But bad manners will surely turn our friends into our enemies. So, we should be very particular about our manners. If you practice good manners, you are showing everyone around you that you are considerate of their feelings and a respectful person. When you show respect and good manners to others, you are also setting the standards for others’ behavior and encouraging them to treat you in the same way, no matter what culture or religion they belong to.
The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) said that “The best amongst you are those who have the best manners and character. ” (Sahih Bukhari) We have a very good example in front of us; the Prophet Muhammad (SAW). He was gentle and considerate. His good manners, high standards of ethics and morality are what attracted people towards him and Islam. My parents have always taught me to respect our scholars and teachers. They take a lot of time, patience, love, and dedication to teach us. This education helps us to be successful in both our deen and duniya.
But even though we have been taught by our parents to have good manners, nobody is perfect. And no child is born with perfect manners and discipline. We can make improvements and corrections for our mistakes and behavior. As such, I will not try to make excuses for my misbehavior in class at times. When I have the urge to talk to my friends and share what is on my mind, I will have the patience and discipline to control myself and wait for the end of class. If my comments are not related to the subject being taught then I will not share them in class.
I will choose my words wisely and not rush to comment on things I do not know much about. Being a good listener is better than speaking, so I will not give my opinion on everything. And lastly, I will try not to interrupt someone, but let them finish. Good manners are quite essential for us. So, students should try to observe good manners at every place. Teachers should guide them in this respect. We should remember that no one knows when our time on earth will come to an end, and when it does we want to be remembered as a person with good manners, Insha’Allah.